Top Questions Surrogates Ask Before Saying “Yes”

Becoming a surrogate is an extraordinary decision that blends compassion, courage, and commitment. It’s not a choice made overnight; it’s something you think about, talk through, and prepare for emotionally and physically. Before saying “yes,” most surrogates have plenty of questions, and that’s a good thing! Asking questions is how you make sure this journey is the right fit for you and your family.

At Babymoon Surrogacy, we understand the importance of being informed and ready before emparking on this meaningful journey. Here are some of the most common questions surrogates ask before taking that first big step.

What does being a surrogate really mean?

At its heart, surrogacy is an act of giving. As a surrogate, you carry and nurture a baby for intended parents who cannot do so themselves. This process is most commonly achieved through  gestational surrogacy, which means the baby you carry is not genetically related to you. The embryo is created using the intended parents’ or donors’ egg and sperm through IVF, but your body plays an important role in helping the baby grow with all the nutrients it needs. The baby receives nutrients and oxygen through the umbilical cord, which connects the baby to the placenta. The placenta then acts as a filter, allowing the transfer of food and oxygen from the surrogate’s bloodstream to the baby without mixing their blood.

Am I eligible to be a surrogate?

Surrogates are strong, selfless, and caring but they’re also medically screened to ensure a healthy pregnancy. Most surrogates are between 21 and 35 years old, have had at least one healthy pregnancy, and live a stable, substance-free lifestyle. You’ll also complete medical and psychological evaluations to confirm your readiness.

What kind of support will I have?

You’re never alone in this journey, at Babymoon, we walk beside you every step of the way. From your first consultation to postpartum recovery, you’ll have:

• A Journey Coordinator who manages logistics and supports you through each stage.

• Medical teams to ensure your health and the baby’s.

• Counselors and support groups to help with the emotional side of things.

• And a caring, responsive team who genuinely wants you to feel informed and valued.

  
  

Surrogacy is deeply personal, but it’s never something you have to do alone.

How much time does it take?

Once matched, the surrogacy journey typically takes around 14 months, depending on the medical screening results, number of embryo transfers to achieve pregnancy. Once pregnant, it’s similar to a typical pregnancy though you’ll have extra support, check-ins, and of course, the proud intended parent(s) cheering you on every step of the way.

What about compensation?

Surrogates give an incredible gift and they deserve to be compensated fairly. At Babymoon, base compensation typically ranges from $45,000 to $75,500 for first-time surrogates, with experienced surrogates earning up to $125,500. You’ll also receive allowances for things like maternity clothes, travel, and childcare.

More importantly, your compensation plan is clear and transparent  so you always know what to expect.

Can I keep working or caring for my family?

Absolutely. Most surrogates continue working and caring for their families while pregnant. Of course, your doctor might recommend slowing down or modifying activities later in pregnancy, but many women find they can manage their normal routines with a bit of flexibility and support.

What if I change my mind?

This is one of the most important questions and one reason why education and preparation are so essential. Before you move forward, you’ll meet with your agency team to ensure you fully understand your rights and responsibilities. Once you match, your commitment is official.

That’s why Babymoon takes the time to help every surrogate feel confident in her decision before saying yes. We want you to enter this experience with complete clarity and peace of mind.

Is surrogacy safe?

With modern medical advances and comprehensive screening, surrogacy today is considered very safe. You’ll be cared for by experienced fertility specialists, OB/GYNs, and mental health professionals who monitor every stage of the process. Babymoon partners only with licensed IVF clinics and legal professionals, ensuring your safety and rights are always protected.

What makes surrogacy so meaningful?

Every surrogate has her own reason but for many, it’s about giving the kind of love they’ve experienced themselves. It’s about helping someone else finally hold their own baby and it’s about knowing you played a role in something that changes lives forever.

Final Reflection

Saying “yes” to surrogacy is saying yes to compassion, courage, and connection. It’s natural to have questions and that’s how you know you care. At Babymoon, we’re here to answer every one of them, to support you emotionally and medically, and to make sure you feel confident every step of the way.

If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to help another family grow, we’d love to talk with you. 

Important Note:

This article is for informational purposes only and does not replace professional medical, legal, or psychological advice. Always consult qualified professionals for guidance specific to your situation.