The Important Role of Intended Parents During Surrogacy

When you picture surrogacy, it’s easy to focus on doctors, lawyers, and contracts. But behind the paperwork and medical milestones, there’s something equally important; the role of intended parent(s). Your presence, encouragement, and connection during pregnancy can transform the journey into a shared experience full of trust and anticipation.

Why Intended Parent Involvement Matters

Pregnancy is more than a medical timeline, it’s an emotional and relational experience. When intended parents participate meaningfully, they not only prepare for parenthood but also build trust and connection with their surrogate fostering a sense of shared purpose. Intended parents can also begin meaningfully building a bond with their baby before birth by participating in ultrasounds or other pregnancy milestones.

Ways Intended Parents Can Be Involved During Pregnancy

Communicate Openly and Respectfully

Clear communication is the foundation of a successful surrogacy journey. Respect your surrogate’s boundaries while staying engaged through check-ins, messages, or scheduled calls. Open conversations create trust and reduce misunderstandings.

Participate in Milestones

Whether it’s attending prenatal appointments (in person or virtually), celebrating ultrasound updates, or participating in milestones like embryo transfer day, key OBGYN check-ins, delivery planning sessions and more. Your presence shows your support to the surrogate and helps you feel connected to the pregnancy. Supportive messages for the surrogate through group messages or through your Journey Coordinator are also welcomed. 

Begin Creating Connections With Your Baby

Even before birth, intended parents can lay the foundation for their future bond. Some choose to record their voices reading stories or singing lullabies to be shared with the baby during pregnancy, while others create a keepsake book of the surrogacy journey. These gestures not only prepare for bonding after birth but also create a sense of presence and connection throughout the pregnancy.

Provide Emotional Support to Your Surrogate

Pregnancy is a demanding experience, and your surrogate may face both physical and emotional challenges. Expressing gratitude, offering encouragement, and acknowledging her efforts can strengthen the relationship and create a supportive environment. At the same time, it’s equally important for intended parents to have their own support system, whether through family, friends, or professional guidance, so they can navigate the ups and downs of the process and show up fully for their surrogate and future baby.

Prepare for Parenthood

While your surrogate carries the pregnancy, you can use this time to prepare your home, take parenting classes, or explore resources about newborn care. This ensures that you’re ready to step into parenthood with confidence once your baby arrives.

Balancing Involvement and Boundaries

It’s natural to want to be present in every step of the journey, but respecting your surrogate’s space is equally important. Boundaries help maintain a healthy balance, ensuring your involvement is supportive rather than overwhelming.

At Babymoon, we help intended parents and surrogates establish clear expectations early on. We can also help facilitate any conversations that cause discomfort while making sure everyone is involved and updated at every stage. This structured approach provides peace of mind and allows everyone to feel comfortable throughout the process. 

A Shared Journey Toward Parenthood

The role of intended parents during pregnancy goes beyond waiting for the baby’s arrival. It’s about building connections, offering support, and preparing for the life-changing transition into parenthood. By engaging in meaningful ways while honoring boundaries, you can ensure the journey is positive for everyone involved. At the same time, some intended parents prefer a more private experience and some surrogates who share this preference, making it possible to find the right match for every journey. At Babymoon, we guide intended parents through every step of the process, offering emotional support, legal expertise, and ongoing communication. Together, we help turn your dream of parenthood into reality.

Important: This article is for informational purposes only. Always consult qualified professionals for guidance tailored to your individual situation.